Jack’s First Shots

Jack’s 2 month PED visit went well. He is in the 55th percentile for length at 23.5in, 60th percentile for weight at 12lbs14oz and 90th percentile for size of head at 16.75in! Our PED says that just means he has a big brain. We think this explains why he still sometimes has the bobble head effect – the poor little guy’s body is half the size of his head – in terms of percentiles anyways!
This visit also encompassed the dreaded first round of immunization shots. Now I don’t want to get into the debate of should you or shouldn’t you {obviously we chose to proceed} but I did want to write about our post-shot experience.
Jack was a little trooper during the shot process. He held tightly to my finger while he screamed, but within a couple of minutes he was back to being completely calm {before our nurse even left the room}. We gave him a few minutes to cuddle before dressing him again.
After the series of shots he seemed a bit subdued. I felt bad that we couldn’t treat him to something like an ice cream cone…
The rest of the day Jack didn’t quite seem like himself… a little withdrawn, kind of like his feelings were hurt. I held him for most of the afternoon and when Daniel came home from work, he cuddled with Jack while I made dinner.
It is amazing that at 2+months old Jack is already coming out of the cuddling stage. He still enjoys it but is more interested in observing the world than snuggling on our chests. It makes me sad that this stage is already passing. At least when he doesn’t feel good he still likes to snuggle.
After dinner we realized that he was starting to feel warm. We took his temperature and discovered that he had a low-grade fever – which we knew was a possibility. We gave him some baby Tylenol {per our doctor’s orders} and continued to hold and cuddle with him the rest of the evening.
Thankfully he was able to sleep most of the night, though quite fitfully at times, and I continued to monitor his fever.
Jack and I spent yesterday on the couch together. Me holding him while he slept or cuddled with me. He was still not himself. I hate when he doesn’t feel well. I think I would be a basketcase if he was actually sick {it kills me when Sophie doesn’t feel well and she is just our dog!}.
Today Jack appears to be back to his usual self though we are going to stay inside again just to make sure he doesn’t pick up anything. Plus there is no point in getting out in the rain.
Next time we are considering breaking the shots up over a week or two just so it isn’t such a jolt to his system. 

Our Chunky Monkey

This morning Daniel and I were a bit late for church so we ended up in the “training room” – a special room for parents with infants and toddlers. It was nice to not have to worry if Jack got noisy {which he really didn’t}.
Anyways, there was a couple sitting in front of us with a little girl. Both Daniel and I noticed how well this little munchkin was holding up her head. She was smaller than Jack so Daniel began to worry that Jack must be behind developmentally {Jack is 8 weeks and two days old}.
After church someone asked the couple how old their daughter was and they said, “Four months.”

Well that made us feel better since Jack can still sometimes be a bit of a bobble head… but it also made us realize how huge our little guy is. Granted I think the little girl was probably small for her age, but Jack continues to grow like crazy. At his one month pediatrician’s appointment he was already 10 lbs 11 oz. Today I weighed him and he is 12 lbs 6 oz! Crazy how big he is getting… no wonder by back hurts at the end of most days!

Cloth Diapers

When Daniel and I first learned that we were expecting, one of our primary concerns was how much this kid was going to cost us and how we could combat any of these costs. Since I am currently a SAHM {who sometimes freelances from home} I thought that using cloth diapers would be a great way that I could help save us money.

About the time we started to consider CD, I had a friend write a great post about how she decided to use CD. I also came across in-depth posts about CD on Bower Power and Young House Love. All of these first-person accounts got me excited.


After much research, Daniel and I agreed that we were definitely going to give cloth diapers a try. We loved the idea of saving money and the green factor was also nice. We weren’t sold on buying the most expensive diapers but wanted to try a couple of options before we fully committed. 

To start out we tried the Kawaii, Just Simply Baby and Rumparooz brands {we have one-size-fits-all in all three brands}. Below is a recap of our experience with each.

Kawaii are by far the cheapest you can buy {$6-$12 per diaper} and they work well. However we found that the quality isn’t quite as good as the other two brands and they seem to take longer to dry {especially the Minkys}.

The majority of our diapers we bought were from Just Simply Baby. They are fairly cheap {$10-$14 per diaper} and a good quality. We started out buying the Halfway In package – it is $80 for 8 diapers {you reference boy or girl but you don’t get to pick your diaper patterns… we ended up with some crazy patterns}.

Just Simply Baby also sells the detergent we use (but we found it cheaper on Amazon) – Rockin Green Detergent. It seems to work great. More on washing below…

Also, Just Simply Baby’s return policy is the best by far, which is why we started with them:

Returns – If you are not satisfied with your diaper purchase, you may return them at any time within 30 days of invoice date. Diapers returned in 30 days do not have to be new in package, and can be used, washed, etcetera. Any packages received after 30 days of order date will NOT be refunded, so please take shipping time into consideration.

And finally, some friends gave us a Rumparooz that we love. However we are too cheap to buy more – they are about $24 per diaper. This is our only diaper that has velcro instead of snaps. It is really easy to adjust the size and it has a double gusset to prevent leaks. We love this diaper, but are way too cheap to buy this brand in bulk.
If you are curious as to how modern cloth diapers work {like we were}, here is a brief overview:
Each diaper has two liners {inserts} that you stuff into it. The inside of the diaper is soft and absorbent. The outside is also soft, but is backed by a waterproof layer that prevents leaking. Come wash day, you pull out  the inserts out and throw them, along with the diaper cover, into the washer. You soak the diapers for an hour in cold water, wash them in warm water, then do an extra rinse in cold water. You don’t even have to touch the poopy part. It is all really easy.
 

When the poop gets more solid (once you introduce food), then you have to knock the poop off into the toilet or a trash can. *I will probably write an update on washing when we reach this stage with Jack.
We currently have about 30 diapers so we do about one load of diapers every other day {this way there is time for them to hang dry}.

The different kinds of inserts are microfiber {this comes with the diaper and works well, but is bulky}, hemp {this insert is very thin, but costs extra and takes longer to dry}, and bamboo {this insert is thin, costs extra and takes longer to dry. It also seems to work the best}. We have a few of all of these inserts.

The covers come in Minky and Regular. We have some of each. The Minky’s are very soft. We don’t really have a preference between the Minky and Regular. We have a variety of patterns and solid color diapers. Daniel’s favorite are the Just Simply Baby Spider Man pattern and I really like the Just Simply Baby Moo pattern.
 
Blow outs have been rare (almost non-existent, and definitely less than disposables), and diaper rash has not happened with the CD at all. When Jack has had a diaper rash from disposables, we temporarily leave him in disposables and use Desitin until the rash clears up, then swap back to cloth. *Note that Desitin can not be used with cloth diapers as it ruins the absorbency.

We received a couple of diaper cakes from baby showers that kept us going on disposables for the first few weeks until Jack reached the minimum 8lb weight required for the CD to fit properly. We tried the diapers a couple times before he reached 8 lbs, but his legs were too small to fill out the holes so they leaked out the sides.

In terms of savings: we have spent $300 upfront on our cloth diapers. Our water bill is up ~$2 per month {no sewer charges since we are on septic, so that keeps it cheaper}. According to some friends who have a one year old, they spent $1000 in the first year on disposable diapers, or about $83/month on average. So unless Jack is potty trained at age 4 months or less, the cloth diapers will save us a lot of money.

Patience

For the past two years, instead of resolutions I have decided to choose a word that would represent a theme for the coming year. In 2010 the word was fortitude. In 2011, adaptation. Both themes proved to be fitting.

In an effort to continue this tradition, I have decided that the theme for 2012 should be patience: quiet, steady perseverance; even-tempered care; diligence. 
With a new baby we are learning to have patience with each other, especially when we are running low on sleep as well as patience with Jack during the times that he cries or pees or spits up on us for the umpteenth time. I have a feeling that patience will be a trait to carry us through much in the coming years. 
We will work to be patient with one another as we continue to grow in our marriage. We will face parenting with steady perseverance as we strive to raise Jack with even-tempered care. We will do our best to be diligent in our jobs – whether in the home or outside.

52 Books: Book 51

The year is drawing to an end and I think I just might make it to my goal of 52 books – new baby and all.

A friend recommended that I read The Happiest Baby on the Block by Harvey Karp. I have been reading it off and on since Jack was born. At times it felt odd to read a book that is specifically addressing parents of colicky babies as Jack is already a pretty happy baby and generally sleeps well. However I pushed on and discovered that the steps recommended in this book work for my happy baby too.

Those evenings that Jack is fussier than usual or when Daniel is watching Jack while I run errands or when I need to lay Jack down for his nap but he just wants to be held. In each of these scenarios, the 5 S’s have worked marvelously for us.

The steps are Swaddle, Side, Shhhh, Swing, and Suck. We had been kind of lax on the swaddling because Jack likes to have his hands available – he is a very tactile baby. But when he is fussy, swaddling combined with the other steps really does work.

I think these steps help Daniel to feel like he can do something to calm Jack down instead of waiting for me to get home so that I can feed him. 
I would definitely recommend this book to new parents.

Trying to Outdo the Griswolds…

Today marked our very first visit to a Christmas tree farm. Tradition #4 is to decorate a live tree. We decided that now that we have a child the whole experience should be more than just running to the local Home Depot to pick out a tree.

To kick things off Daniel researched tree farms in the area and we settled on the Thornhill Christmas Tree Farm in Pisgah, AL. As the crow flies, it is 9 miles from our house, directly across the Tennessee River. As the GPS {and roads} dictate, it was a 35-minute drive.

With an infant we have to be strategic in our trips. I fed Jack before we left. We bundled him up and off we went. Thankfully the car lulls him to sleep. After a quick stop at Zaxby’s for lunch, we were on our way up Sand Mountain.


The Christmas tree farm was easy to find. Going in the middle of the day on a Friday was perfect for us. We were the only ones there and were able to let Sophie run around off leash – I think she was in doggy heaven. I was also able to squeeze in a quick feeding for Jack in the car.


Initially the tree we picked a tree that was straight out of the Griswold’s Christmas Vacation. It was 13-feet tall and about 8+ feet wide at the base. Granted we have a two-story living room, but still. 

We were all set to take it home, but the guy that works at the farm took one look at our Subaru and asked “Yall gona put it on top of that thang?” Daniel told him we haul a 16-foot canoe on the roof of our Subaru regularly. The guy still didn’t look convinced. 

In the end, he told us that he wouldn’t cut the tree because he wouldn’t be able to fit it through his tree bagger. He then directed us to another part of the farm where there were more manageable 10-foot trees.

So Jack got to go on his first “off road” driving experience on a dirt road with ginormous pot holes. We picked out a tree we liked and the tree farm guy still had trouble bagging it. It actually took Daniel helping him to pull it through the tree bagger.


When Jack is older, we may have to go back on a Sunday since they have a “train” that takes you out to look at the trees. I am sure a little kid would adore that… but then we couldn’t take Sophie.


Once home Daniel had to cut down the base of the tree because it was too large to fit in our tree stand. After cutting the trunk to size, Daniel used a dolly to move the tree into the house. 
After we had it inside, I helped to hold it steady while Daniel set the tree in the base. He told me that the tree wasn’t that heavy. Easy enough for him to say… I almost dropped it while “holding it steady.” When I quizzed him on what he meant by “not heavy” he said that it was probably around 100 lbs.


Now that the tree is inside of our house it looks ridiculously big. It is actually 11-feet tall {we only paid $7/ft} and it is over 6-feet wide at the base. Good thing our living room ceiling is tall because we have officially found the maximum size that we can fit into our living room {without the help of a third person}.

I would say that our first trip to the Christmas tree farm was a success.

Flying Solo

Yesterday Daniel went back to work after 3 weeks of leave. It was probably harder for him to go back to a 10-hour work day than it was for me to take care of Jack by myself.


Overall we had a pretty uneventful day. Jack did a lot of sleeping, eating and pooping. We are officially never buying Huggies again {those suckers leaked on me way too many times}. 

I am so thankful that Jack is a content little guy. He spent a good portion of the day sleeping and I was able to work on a couple of different projects.  I even managed to squeeze in a 20-minute yoga workout {thanks to Hulu}.

A new development is that Jack has started to become a little clingy during the day. About half of the time when I lay him down to nap he wakes up within 5 minutes and wants to be held. I know that some day in the future I am really going to miss these extra moments of cuddling.

Thick and Chewy Chocolate Chip Cookies

Evidently Jack does not like to be left out. Last night I decided to make a batch of cookies after dinner so Daniel took over baby duty to spend some quality time with our little man. I had been downstairs in the kitchen for less than 15 minutes when Daniel came down with a fussy Jack and placed him in his infant carrier on the counter top.


Jack immediately calmed down and started observing everything in the kitchen. He was able to watch both Daniel and I; he could smell cookies baking and simultaneously listen to the jazz music that was streaming from Pandora. 


I know that Jack loves his Dad, but I think he really wanted to hang out where things were happening. I look forward to the day when he can help me make the cookies.
  

Thick and Chewy Chocolate Chip Cookie Recipe from the Sugared Whisk.

5Days PostPartum


Things I didn’t expect after having a baby
  • The amount of {ahem} liquid my bladder can hold… and how often it gets full.
  • Only being able to sleep on my back* after many months of not being able to sleep on my back or stomach. *Hopefully this won’t last for too long.
  • How famished I am. Sometimes I feel like I will keel over from hunger. This results in eating cake out of the pan {it tastes great but I’ll be glad when it is gone}.
  • How quickly my body is changing.
  • How well Daniel and I work together as a team. We have always been a great team, but I was a little nervous that being sleep deprived and clueless, we might be at each other’s throats. Turns out I didn’t need to worry about this one.
  • The amount of sleep I would get and how well I could function on it. I truthfully thought my sleep deprivation would be much greater. So far feeding has worked out to only having to get up 2-3 times during the night, which has been totally doable.
  • How quickly we are adjusting to the parenting thing. I thought we would be more nervous and inadequate, but I think we have both stepped up to the plate.

Things Daniel didn’t expect {mostly in regards to diaper changes}…
  • That Jack would never actually pee in his diaper. 
  • When he manages to pee on the wall, it’s enough to run all the way down the wall where it pools on the floor.
  • That he can get 4 diapers dirty in less than 10 minutes.
  • That Jack would be so content 98% of the time.

Funny story from our first day home: 
Daniel went to Walmart to get a handful of supplies that I needed. When he checked out, the cashier took one look at his items and asked if he had had a boy or a girl.

Stay tuned… I will be posting Part I of our Birth Story tomorrow.

pleated poppy
Shirt from Old Navy. Jeans from Kohl’s. Chacos from REI.

My pregnancy in pictures:














5 days postpartum.

52 Books: Book 39

Last week I finished BabyWise by Gary Ezzo and Robert Bucknam. Based on internet reviews this seems to be one of those books that people either love or hate. I am not a parent yet so I can’t say definitely how it will work for us, but I do know many people who have used the principles in this book and have had great results.
I didn’t find this book to be as extreme as some of the reviewers claimed it was. In fact from how I was raised and my own personal beliefs I think this book supports a style of parenting that I am very much on board with. I think schedules are good though there should be flexibility within any schedule. Also I really believe parents need to be in charge and that teaching {even at a young age} is the parents responsibility. I know not everyone will agree with this approach and that is OK. We are all allowed to raise our kids as we see fit.
From all of the hype I thought the book would be predominantly about getting your baby to sleep and making them cry it out. After reading the book I was surprised at how much of the focus is on feeding your baby and helping to regulate their metabolism. Also the emphasis on awake time before sleep time was new to me, but it makes a lot of sense.
I recognize that until we have our baby in November we have no idea what we are in for but we do plan to work on implementing a lot of the tactics in this book.
A friend of mine also recommended that we read The Happiest Baby on the Block
Excerpts from the book: 
The greatest overall influence you will have on your children will not come in your role as an individual, but in your joint role as husband and wife.
Children should be welcome members of the family and not the center of it.
Immediate gratification training negatively impacts a child’s ability to learn the skills of sitting, focusing, and concentrating.
…feelings are not the basis for sound decision making. To deny the importance of careful assessment is to deny parents their leadership role. Leaders must be clear-headed and ready to make decisions. They should not be driven by their emotions.

…sometimes people redefine order to mean rigidity, and that leads to imbalance. Balance includes both structure and flexibility.